Codex Vitae

love

• five stages of relationship by bruce muzik
• all about love by bell hooks

grief

• eat. drink water. sleep. these things are surprising hard to do while grieving. get support on them.
• learning to grieve small things prepares us and teaches us how to grieve big things.
• definitions
  • grief is what living beings experience when what or whom they love dies or disappears — martín prechtel, the smell of rain on dust
  • grief is praise of those we have lost. — martín prechtel, the smell of rain on dust
  • “Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.” — Vicki Harrison
  • grief is love looking for a home — susan david, phd

habits

• separate the process of building the habit from the outcomes of what you want the habit to help you accomplish. there is a common tendency to be unsatisfied with the outcome of the work, become disappointed, and stop the habit formation process because it’s not giving you what you wanted when you started the habit in the first place. build the habit first. then fill it with the content/work that will actually take you where you want to go.
• start small. so small that if you miss one, it’s easy to not miss a second. ht: james clear.

feelings

• feeling your feelings is part of how we each fulfill our purposes. inspo energy budget by toni jones

misc

• the reality of nature / the nature of reality is fractal. “small is all.” — adrienne maree brown. “everything is patterns.” — martin bell. if you can learn about or change something in a small manifestation, you will be more equipped to do it on a larger scale.